The Curious Case of the Jocks Addicted.

It’s a modern day anti-romance: Boy meets girl, boy hooks up with girl, girl falls for the boy, boy leaves and moves on to other girls, girl cries and becomes obsessed with the boy. Pretty classic right? On scenarios like this, who hasn’t heard of the saying excuse “Don’t hate the player, hate the game?” It made me think, “why the hell not??”

Truth be told, when a guy is unattainable or uninterested, girls go gaga and makes us want him even more. Taken or uninterested men appeal desirable to us more than they actually are simply because are brains are wired to want things that are hard to get. As they say, IT’S THE THRILL OF THE CHASE, baby!

Case in point: Ever wanted a sold-out handbag? Say, a limited edition LV Takashi Murakami Neverfull? You buy tickets to the only event that will sell that right? I believe it’s what they call “frustration-attraction.” The fact that the guy is an insensitive jock and the belief that he can change all because of your undying love just amplifies your lust. Well, guess what honey – he can, but he won’t.

But of course, persistent the lil critter that you are – despite the sudden silent treatment, you still text, call & email. After a couple of ignored texts, you still give reasoning for their failure to respond: “No load?” “Maybe he’s sleeping..” “He’s prolly at work.” ..and this goes on and on until you get tired and finally admit it to yourself: you’re expired my dear – GAME OVER. It hits you with the realization that if you are important to him, he will make the time (READ). But he didn’t. Ouch. It’s like the end of a wrestling match: Total smack down.

Why do we keep on thinking about the one who isn’t thinking about us? Have we noticed that we may be losing our self-esteem and in the long run, our self-respect too? Is it really that important to be validated and liked by the person who didn’t appreciate us the first time around? “Maybe he misses me and will change na coz he doesn’t wanna lose me..” Will we ever stop trying to figure out why he’s suddenly hot-and-cold (aside from the obvious reason that he’s a slut)?

Instead of blaming the game, yes – blame him. Tell yourself that it’s his loss, not the other way around. And instead of envying the “flavor of the night,” feel bad for her because people don’t change overnight. Insensitive jocks and players have a loooooooong history to go (READ). Why? Because they are the masters of their own game – and you are just a “saling pusa.”

Never forget that women are made to be confident and intelligent. Confident enough to believe that you deserve better; and intelligent enough not to repeat the same mistake twice.

GO GIRL POWER!

 

TTYL!