Kat Antonio is in a relationship with NO ONE.

I joined Facebook more than three years ago, and back then the features are still pretty basic – the “relationship status” is already there just like in Friendster but I don’t edit it since my then-boyfriend doesn’t have an account yet and I only have less than 20 friends who doesn’t even care what I publish on my wall. This social networking site boomed in the Philippines just middle of last year and me and my then-boyfriend have long broken up for me to put an “In A Relationship” status in my profile.

The first time I set it to “In A Relationship” was back in late October and alas – less than a minute after and I think I got about 6-8 comments. And after an hour? I got 36 freakin comments and likes! Wow. Same thing happens to my other friends, who – whenever they change their relationship status, will get tons of reactions from people, some they’re not even close to.

That got me thinking: Why is it important to label our relationships and using sites like Facebook to tell the world whether you’re “In A Relationship” or “It’s Complicated?” What happened to JUST LIVING? Sure, we are proud of being in-love and shouting to every person we care about that we are happily taken is normal; but what about for failed relationships? Do you really want everyone to know that you’re going through a rough road? Are you willing to explain to every single commenter about what went wrong?

..Why do we feel more secured when things are labeled, is it plainly for everyone to know what your relationship status is, or is it because this is our way of knowing that we are both on the SAME PAGE with the other person?

Guess I’ll have to change mine to “Widowed.”

 

TTYL!

Good Riddance and Bye-Bye!! (Easier said than done)

After a break-up (or in my case, a fall-out), I like to do two things – 1. go the salon for a haircut and get my nails done; 2. flush the sucker out of my system and my life. The first one is easy. A single trip to Tony & Jackey is all I need and I come out feeling really pretty and ready to party. The second thing, however, is FAR from being easy. Especially with Facebook, Twitter, Yahoo Messenger, BBM, etc.

I remember back in highschool when I could just rip off a few pictures and delete a phone number, and my ex would be BYE-BYE-BYE faster than Britney Spears’ marriage. But now, with all these social networking sites and instant messengers, I actually have to debate with myself whether or not I should go through ALL of my pictures and DE-TAG his face next to mine. And with the number of albums that I have plus tagged pics? That could seriously take hours. Hours that I’m not sure I’m willing to spend on him, at least not anymore.

Now, it might get you confused when I say that I haven’t been in a relationship in a while, say a year and a half. (ALL TOGETHER NOW: “Then why the hell are you talking about ex’es?!”) HOWEVER, I have been in-love in that span of time, twice. And yeah, both are epic fails (lol). But even though it didn’t work, I’m not the type who hold grudges – at least not for so long. It didn’t work out for a reason so leave it at that. I mean, yeah there was a point in time when I absolutely hated someone for lying. But you can only hate someone for so long that it gets tiring.

So now, yeah I’m kinda tired hating people – especially if that someone used to be really important to me and the reasons for not staying is reeeeaallly mothafucking plausible. I got no choice right? But still, it leaves me a big question on how do I get rid of him from my life when reminders of that person are everywhere and on SOOOO MANY FREAKIN’ MEDIUMS? Do I delete all of our past YM msgs and old emails?? Do I de-friend his family and bestfriends on Facebook?

How far should I go to remove someone from my life? Do I really have to dig into ALL of my web sites, IM’s and emails and delete his SOAB face out of my web page just to get closure?

Mid-year syndrome.

Okay, it’s the middle of the year and i haven’t accomplished anything yet. This blog has been empty for months now mainly because, well, there’s nothing worth writing. To be honest I am a bit disconnected with my friends for the first quarter of this year due to insanity (again) that I am still trying to cope up with. Very very few of my bestfriends knew what I have been up to and now that it’s done and over with, I am trying to go back to my old ways of emotional detachment and bringing back the social life that I’ve lost for quite some time.

I am thinking of taking a turn on the kind of blog entries to put here. Now that many people have taken an interest in reading this little rant page of mine, I think it would not be appropriate to document my emotions anymore especially if it will satisfy the craving of my beloved haters (pun intended). And since I am into tech stuff and school is coming up, I “might” use this as a portal of my thoughts on various subjects excluding my not-so-perfect lovelife (lol).

Welcome to the emotionless side of me. Ü

PS. Writing via Windows Live Writer, and I so love it!! Made my life so much easier!! Ü

school hunt!

most of my spare time recently is being spent online searching for reputable schools in the south. i have been planning to study this semester and looking for schools alone can be such a drag. here the following points i am considering:

- distance education or traditional?
- budget?
- full degree or a diploma IT course?
- nearest Cisco learning center?

for several months i have seriously considered enrolling in UPOU (www.upou.edu.ph) but never got the chance to inquire due to my very busy work schedule back in my previous company, until it was too late and the registration ended. i like the idea of self-studying since i only need a diploma for me to broaden my career options -- as being an undergrad is the only thing that hinders me from getting this job i have been wanting all along.


TTYL,

most screwed valentines day ever

been ranting to my Twitter account (http://twitter.com/katantonio) on what had just happened. been messing up a lot recently and my friends joined in on my stress too on vday.

in the past 48 hours i have learned that: my love instincts are unparalleled. never been wrong once. and in this case, yes i am deeply disappointed. friendship, when mixed with love complications -- can really make or break a group. and it sucks that your stress relievers suddenly became the cause of stress that you don't wanna be a part of them "in the mean time."

i guess i need to cool things up first.


TTYL,